The Real Reason You Keep Self-Sabotaging Your Health Goals (and how to stop)
Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging Your Health Goals (And How to Finally Stop)
Ever catch yourself thinking, “I know what to do... so why aren’t I doing it?”
You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And this isn’t about willpower.
This episode of The Menopause Method is your midlife brain’s wake-up call.
🎙 In this episode, Cam Allen reveals:
- Why self-sabotage in midlife is actually self-protection
- How the unconscious mind keeps you stuck in familiar patterns
- The real reason motivation fades (hint: it’s not your fault)
- Simple NLP-based reframes to shift your story and your results
- Why behavior follows identity—and how to change both gently
- How to finally get consistent without more pressure or perfection
Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, postmenopause, or just feel like your spark has turned into a flicker—this one’s for you.
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🧠 This episode is packed with mindset shifts, nervous system wisdom, and language upgrades that actually work for midlife women.
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We'll cover:
- Why ‘sabotage’ is actually your brain’s outdated safety system.That block you keep running into? It’s not laziness — it’s biology. Your brain is efficient, always choosing familiar (even uncomfortable familiar) over the unknown.
- Why your old willpower tricks don’t work anymore. Shaming yourself or trying to “just do it” doesn’t calm your nervous system — and that’s exactly what you need as you move through and beyond menopause.
- How to reframe your inner dialogue to become your own cheerleader. Instead of “I always quit,” try “I haven’t found a rhythm that supports me yet.” The words you use with yourself aren’t just fluff — they’re instructions to your body and mind, especially in midlife.
Key Takeaways:
- Self-sabotage is often actually self-protection, not a personal flaw.
- Your brain prioritizes safety and the familiar over your goals, especially in midlife.
- Willpower and shame-based motivation don't work for long-term health changes after menopause.
- Reframing your thoughts and language can help shift your habits and outcomes.
- Hormonal changes in menopause affect stress and stored hormones, making past strategies less effective.
- Small, compassionate steps lead to real change—start with micro moves, not grand gestures.
- Your identity creates momentum; embracing new self-talk can anchor lasting behavior shifts.
Chapters:
00:00 Rethink Motivation for Post-Menopause
04:13 Rewire Thoughts Through Reframing
07:26 Rediscover Leadership: Embrace Change
Click below to listen now, and let’s make movement work for you!
